Death is the boundary that marks the edge of life and gives it meaning. Each soul and those who loved them are deserving of a memorial service to mark their passing. At Hope such services are held not because a person died, but because he or she lived and in their living touched the lives of countless people. It is a time to acknowledge that our greatest sorrows are always connected to and a part of our greatest joys. Therefore, a memorial service at Hope is a time to laugh and cry as we celebrate the person's life.

The customs and procedures for a service at Hope reflect the spiritual values of our religious community and "mark the dignity and mystery of what we call death." It is a religious service that focuses on the life of the decedent, not death. The Minister will meet with the family to plan the service and, if requested, can participate with the family for a scattering of ashes or a graveside committal ceremony prior to the memorial service at Hope.Ushering is done by the members of Hope or persons appointed by the family. The Women of Hope customarily work with the family to provide a reception following the service. The church provides a guest book for family and friends to sign prior to the service.

The minister leads the service and delivers a eulogy and will, in consultation with the family, approve the music and readings for the memorial service and any family members who may wish to participate. No charge is made for the use of the church facilities, but non-members will typically provide an honorarium to the Minister and a contribution to the church; members will typically make a contribution to the Minister's Discretionary Fund and a general contribution to the church. Musician's fees for members and non-members are the responsibility of the family and are to be paid prior to the service. Within the Sanctuary the family provides a single floral arrangement.

The single arrangement is a theological statement to remind us that all are equal in death. Additional flowers are permitted in the Fellowship Hall. Unitarians typically encourage memorial gifts to the church or favorite named charities in lieu of flowers.

Of all the wonders that I yet have heard, It seems to me most strange that men should fear; Seeing that death, a necessary end, Will come when it will come.

~William Shakespeare